Kanesha's Blog

When you find yourself going through the wrong doors of life or taking a dead-end path, how does this affect your self-esteem?

When I ask my clients to give a status report on their self-esteem - we use these 4 markers:
(a) intact,
(b) flailing,
(c) phoning it in, or
(d) completely defeated

This often leads to a conversation about how to:

• Feel the pain or disappointment without turning on ourselves

• Find safe places (or people) to express negative thoughts and self-defeating ideas

• Write a brand new life lesson plan to leverage what we’ve learned when working through difficult times or situations

• Prioritize rest, play, and creativity to nurture their self-esteem

For many of us as adults, we often don't think about our self-esteem concretely.

We feel we are too busy, too mature, or too above it all to do a self-esteem check-in or to pause and make sure we are OK.

It’s easy and better to just keep moving, right?

It’s more grown-up to power through it and buck up – because, you know, that’s life.

No.
Not right.
None of that is right.

When we operate like this, our teens are watching and learning?

What’s a humane and better alternative to keep your self-esteem positively functioning?

Start by:

• Upgrading your daily wellness practices

• Write down your accomplishments for the day, week, and month

• Stop saying mean things to yourself – about yourself

• Shift the company you keep – find a group or space that will give your self-esteem a boost

How do you keep your self-esteem intact?
What do you model for the teens around you when it comes to boosting their self-esteem?

Grab the template here.