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[ASSESSMENT] Keeping Your Self-Esteem in Check

[ASSESSMENT] Keeping Your Self-Esteem in Check

When you find yourself going through the wrong doors of life or taking a dead-end path, how does this affect your self-esteem?

When I ask my clients to give a status report on their self-esteem - we use these 4 markers:
(a) intact,
(b) flailing,
(c) phoning it in, or
(d) completely defeated


This often leads to a conversation about how to:

• Feel the pain or disappointment without turning on ourselves

• Find safe places (or people) to express negative thoughts and self-defeating ideas

• Write a brand new life lesson plan to leverage what we’ve learned when working through difficult times or situations

• Prioritize rest, play, and creativity to nurture their self-esteem


For many of us as adults, we often don't think about our self-esteem concretely.

We feel we are too busy, too mature, or too above it all to do a self-esteem check-in or to pause and make sure we are OK.

It’s easy and better to just keep moving, right?

It’s more grown-up to power through it and buck up – because, you know, that’s life.

No.
Not right.
None of that is right.

When we operate like this, our teens are watching and learning?

What’s a humane and better alternative to keep your self-esteem positively functioning?

Start by:

• Upgrading your daily wellness practices

• Write down your accomplishments for the day, week, and month

• Stop saying mean things to yourself – about yourself

• Shift the company you keep – find a group or space that will give your self-esteem a boost

How do you keep your self-esteem intact?
What do you model for the teens around you when it comes to boosting their self-esteem?

Grab the template here.

Kanesha Baynard

Kanesha is the founder of the Bold Living Today community focused on helping members disrupt unfulfilling patterns through creativity and navigate transition with confidence and boldness.