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Do You Have a Self-Love Plan for This Summer?

Do You Have a Self-Love Plan for This Summer?

Hey Bold-Thinkers!

We are about 15 days away from summer 2019.

Are you ready?

I know I am.

My word for 2019 is “boost”.

I’ve been boosting my:
business reach.
time management team for my business.
one-on-one coaching roster.
daily wellness practices.

In order to get focused on what really matters and decrease some time sucks, I had to audit some of my habits.

Was this challenging?


Did I experience any resistance?


I had to go slowly, practice the art of subtraction, and have some tough conversations with myself.


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If you are looking forward to summer and want to create more space to focus on what matters most to you, here are five things to consider (and work through):

Worrying about fitting in
There is nothing more exhausting than trying to be someone you aren’t. That doesn’t make things easier for you in the long run. Why? Because you aren’t using your energy to sustain yourself. Trying to fit in puts you at constant odds with yourself. You don’t have time for that.

Allowing regret to control you and keep you small
We all make mistakes; no one is exempt from this. Learn the life lesson and forgive yourself. When the self-defeating thoughts come up, write about it. Get some clarity about what triggers the regret – and then get help and relief.

Waiting for the perfect conditions
I can’t emphasize this enough – your time is now! You may not have all the answers right in front of you, and that’s OK. Commit to taking 1-to-5 steps, prior to summer, to get going on your “what’s next?”. You don’t have to do it perfectly. You just need to trust yourself and get started.

Exhausting yourself keeping up with fads or trends
Social media is a great way for us to learn and connect. It’s also the hotbed of FOMO, fads, and “you’re no cool unless…”. Let all of that go. Unfollow any people or accounts that are not teaching you or supporting your goals. Follow people and accounts that support your “what’s next”. Your time and energy deserve a velvet rope. Get selective and picky!

Taking time to pause and celebrate
We all deserve to be celebrated and cheered on. When you do something bold or accomplish something great, let your supporters know. Take a moment to pat yourself on the back and feel proud of yourself. Before you move on to the next awesome thing – soak up your success so you can allow room for creativity and self-compassion. Our society says more is more – but you get to decide what “more” looks like for you – and how soon you want to do or take on “more”.

What are your plans for this summer?
What habits are working for you?
Which habits need some rehabilitation – or need to be nixed?

Learn more in the "Focus on What Matters" guided journal.

Kanesha Baynard

Kanesha is the founder of the Bold Living Today community focused on helping members disrupt unfulfilling patterns through creativity and navigate transition with confidence and boldness.